"Don't Stand So Close to Me" is a 1980 song and hit single by the British rock band The Police. It concerns a schoolgirl's crush on her young teacher and the teacher's nervousness about the situation. The Police won the 1982 "Grammy Award for Best Rock Performance by a Duo or Group with Vocal" for this song.
The song deals with the mixed feelings of the teacher: his lust on one hand, and the inappropriateness leading to "strong words in the staff room". The title expresses the second feeling. "Don't Stand So Close to Me" may be considered an example of a paranoia song because of the situation of the schoolteacher trying to avoid temptation with the girl who lusts after him.
The music and lyrics of the song were written by the lead singer of The Police, Sting, who had previously worked as an English teacher. In a 2001 interview for the concert DVD ...All This Time, Sting denied that the song is autobiographical. He worked as a schoolteacher at St. Paul's First School in Cramlington for two years. His experiences there would inspire him to write two of the Police's greatest hits: "Don't Stand So Close To Me" and "Roxanne". Each was loosely based on one of his favorite books: Lolita and Cyrano de Bergerac, respectively.
The line "Just like the old man in that book by Nabokov" alludes to Vladimir Nabokov's famous novel Lolita which covers similar issues.
Lolita was first written in English and published in 1955. The novel is both internationally famous for its innovative style and infamous for its controversial subject: the book's narrator and protagonist, Humbert Humbert, becoming obsessed with a 12-year-old girl named Dolores Haze. This obsession with young girls appears to have been a result of his failure to consummate an affair with a childhood sweetheart, Annabel Leigh, before her premature death from typhus.
After its publication, Lolita attained a classic status, becoming one of the best known and most controversial examples of 20th century literature. The name "Lolita" has entered pop culture to describe a sexually precocious young girl. The novel has been adapted to film twice, once in 1962 by Stanley Kubrick starring James Mason as Humbert Humbert, with Sue Lyon as Lolita, and again in 1997 by Adrian Lyne, starring Jeremy Irons as Humbert Humbert, and Dominique Swain as Lolita.
Mary Kay Letourneau is a former schoolteacher famous for having an affair with a young student, giving birth to two children by him, and later marrying him after being convicted of statutory rape and serving several years in prison.
Letourneau first met Vili Fualaau (born June 26, 1983) when he was a student in her second grade class at Shorewood Elementary School in Burien, Washington. He was then eight years old; she was 29. She became his teacher again when he was in the sixth grade, and their sexual relationship began during the summer of 1996, when Vili was 13 and she was 34. Her husband became aware of the situation when he read their letters to each other in February of 1997 and revealed it to family members.
In May 1999, while she was in prison, Letourneau and her first husband, Steve Letourneau, were divorced. Steve was given custody of their four children. He remarried and moved the family to Alaska.
Letourneau and Fualaau were married on May 20, 2005 in Seattle in a ceremony covered by the media. Mary Kay Letourneau now goes by the legal name of Mary Fualaau.
My Point of View
The story of Vili and Mary seems to be the reversed version of the Lolita novel: a woman falling in love with a young boy. It fortunately had a happy ending for both of them. It proves, I guess, that there is no age limit for LOVE. I sometimes wonder why society has to tell us who we CAN love or not.